Dr. Puff trains people in Orange County through seminars and individual therapy in the skills of anger management using the highly effective Anger Work methods developed by Dr. Puff. This article discusses who can benefit from doing Anger Work, the two essential keys to doing successful Anger Work, and specific hands-on techniques for anger management. For a more detailed handling of these subjects, a free download of Dr. Puff’s book Anger Work: How To Express Your Anger and Still Be Kind is available in both print and audio formats.
What is Anger Work:Anger work is a psychological tool which is used to heal from past and present emotional pains. The basic premise of Anger Work is to let go of emotionally painful events by focusing on them and expressing anger about the pain. By focusing on the trauma over and over, the pain will gradually go away, never to affect you again. (Specific, hands-on techniques are discussed later in this article) A comparison can be made between our physical health and our emotional health. When the body experiences a severe laceration or other injury, if the wound is left unattended it will get infected. Eventually, it will fester and may even turn into gangrene, a life threatening condition. If, however, the wound is cleansed thoroughly and allowed to heal completely, all that is left is a scar to remind the victim of the event. Likewise, when an emotional wound is sustained by the psyche, if it is not addressed, and feelings are repressed, it will fester as surely as any physical wound. As a result it will start to affect other areas of the person’s life, just as infection spreads to other parts of the body. Since abusive people and emotional pain are part of everyday life, the person who does not learn to deal appropriately with them will start to experience a cumulative negative effect. Eventually the individual’s overall emotional and psychological health will be at risk. If, however, the emotional wound is cleansed well, and allowed to heal completely, all that is left is a memory. This memory, like an old scar, does not hurt. It becomes no more than a record of your personal history, an experience which you have learned from. Whether you are in your middle age, adolescence or teenage, anger management through Anger Work is the cleansing process that can bring this healing about.
Essential Keys To Successful Anger Work:There are two essential keys to making your Anger Work effective. These are:
- Do not take out or “act-out” your anger on yourself.
- Do not act out your anger on others (this includes animals.)